tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post1599551018449969899..comments2023-10-30T09:41:15.375-06:00Comments on just showing up: This too shall passBrianna Heldthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08224838737334231065noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-49876821944099377752008-11-16T09:26:00.000-07:002008-11-16T09:26:00.000-07:00Lara I miss you!!!!!!!!!!!!Lara I miss you!!!!!!!!!!!!Brianna Heldthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224838737334231065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-7790624147014486892008-11-15T18:50:00.000-07:002008-11-15T18:50:00.000-07:00Oh man, I wish we could sit down and talk about th...Oh man, I wish we could sit down and talk about this. I'm really struggling with Caedra right now...or maybe more accuratly my own parenting. The older she gets the more apparent my inconsistancies and failings become. She's really sweet, and polite and intelligent, but she thinks she's in charge.<BR/>I need to start reading the books you're reading. Thanks for this post. Love you!Larissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09586721197750246060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-36100157218362009712008-11-15T14:17:00.000-07:002008-11-15T14:17:00.000-07:00thanks for such an insightful post. i think we al...thanks for such an insightful post. i think we all go thru this!! so encouraging.Lisa Leonardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09000122580195871946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-38645552547982953302008-11-12T19:36:00.000-07:002008-11-12T19:36:00.000-07:00This post hit home for us. We are just coming up f...This post hit home for us. We are just coming up from what we call one of our down hill roller coaster rides with our eldest who is 6. He came to us just under the age of 4 borderline RAD. Now he no longer holds any attachment diagnose but we still have our weeks and months that we really struggle. Love and Logic and the words of Nancy Thomas were a God send for us. The skills it taught us were so valuable, in helping to heal is tiny heart. I still sleep with here books and CD's by my bed for reference when we have a bad spell. Her big thing is touch, hold them close, even if they don't want it.! Thanks again Brianna!Tracy Reguscihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01713165827369401626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-69801651352592744742008-11-12T19:34:00.000-07:002008-11-12T19:34:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jamie Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16683716285798738605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-49435378178465715262008-11-12T15:50:00.000-07:002008-11-12T15:50:00.000-07:00We've gone through something similar with Isaiah. ...We've gone through something similar with Isaiah. I felt like it was more of a heart-issue (or spirit of rebellion, as I called it) over just "terrible two's" (I hate that label and don't subscribe to it). Anyway, over the summer things came to a head and resulted in me taking time off work and spending three solid days of focus, discipline, and "breaking the spirit". We've definitely had to stay consistent with him, and still have issues, but he turned a corner after those three days and is SO much better now. <BR/><BR/>You're a great mom, and your kids are blessed to have you.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08553880920740654030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-16576109381830078812008-11-12T15:34:00.000-07:002008-11-12T15:34:00.000-07:00you are so wise and such a great mom, brianna. we...you are so wise and such a great mom, brianna. we were having a tough time with abe there, and i tried doing some more touching and loving and positive attention. the phase seems to have passed for now. you hit the nail on the head saying it's not just about modifying behavior--it's really speaking with their heart. such a challenge parenting is. i'm so thankful for God in our lives. how would we do this without Him? I have no idea.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06498524595394532044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-53921994858434352052008-11-12T14:36:00.000-07:002008-11-12T14:36:00.000-07:00putting my computer away now to snuggle with my li...putting my computer away now to snuggle with my little guy who is in a rough place...<BR/>:)Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04181218500760233960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-80490450315363676512008-11-12T13:10:00.000-07:002008-11-12T13:10:00.000-07:00So glad you wrote this. One of my little ones has ...So glad you wrote this. One of my little ones has been driving me nuts for a few weeks and straight had me in tears the other day because of his unwillingness to submit to my authority.<BR/>You're right, stand firm, spend more cuddle time and don't budge on the rules and pray for wisdom! <BR/>He regulated eventually, thank the Lord!The Brothershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04515591953736573120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-1137787602752663972008-11-12T13:09:00.000-07:002008-11-12T13:09:00.000-07:00Thanks for this, Brianna. I'm so glad your little...Thanks for this, Brianna. I'm so glad your little man is "back"! I struggle with this all the time with my 8 year old who has special needs. I agree with you that solving behavioral issues is only the surface. The real target is the heart. Thanks for your encouragement.Laurziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07296612994620890887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-89496489563928534182008-11-12T11:33:00.000-07:002008-11-12T11:33:00.000-07:00Thanks for posting this. We had a similar situati...Thanks for posting this. We had a similar situation here a month or two back. My super sweet three-year-old decided to start acting very ugly at school and church towards everyone else, including the teachers. Unfortunately, at the same time, his behavior seemed to improve at home! So it was hard to say the least, and I wanted to throw in the towel many a day. We are very much disciplinarians around here, but when he was acting up, it drove me crazy that we appeared to be the parents who let our child run wild. We tried everything -- and after lots of prayer as well, the behavior seemed to just stop and he is back to normal. I don't know if it was attachment issues or just regular ol' 3-year-old boy behavior (our son is from Guatemala), but looking back, I'm thinking it might have actually just been one of those runs of the terrible three's I've heard so much about, especially for boys. I'm hoping for no more "naughty phases" in the future. Seriously, reading this post and how someone else was going through it as well sure makes me feel better!Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13552751640928061480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-23104338499407989332008-11-12T11:28:00.000-07:002008-11-12T11:28:00.000-07:00i'm so glad he's 'back'..it's so hard, this parent...i'm so glad he's 'back'..it's so hard, this parenting thing! i have just been going thru such a similiar thing with my eight year old, and of course heaping on the guilts and doubts on myself..I just pray and pray, and yesterday in the middle of the situation, I realized that my heart was sort of withdrawing from her, in a sense of, 'ok then fine!' (real mature of me i know!) and I felt God say, 'you know, Darc, when you're misbehaving in a relationship, with God, with your husband, you want to feel LOVED no matter what.' and that helped turn myheart back to her in softness. i don't know, parenting would be so EASY if is was just about controlling them..but it's so much more, and raising them up to be who God has planned for them to be. eesh! it's huge. But more and more I'm really just saying 'ok God, i have NO idea..' and He really does direct my steps. <BR/>I think as soon as we 'figure out' one stage or phase, it's too late, they're on to the next one, and of course the younger sibling will be completely different, so...<BR/>You sound like a great mom..love, structure, discipline, and more love. :)darcihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11729565512380024608noreply@blogger.com