tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post4532927464465000835..comments2023-10-30T09:41:15.375-06:00Comments on just showing up: Life with a not-officially-diagnosed-but-definitely-showing-signs-of-ADHD sonBrianna Heldthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08224838737334231065noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-64851416602432620122010-07-22T17:56:03.341-06:002010-07-22T17:56:03.341-06:00My pediatrician sets apart the first 30 minutes of...My pediatrician sets apart the first 30 minutes of each day to do consults with parents, kid-free, about concerns. That was very refreshing to hear. I fell like we have conquered a lot of the drama around here, but it's nice to know that he WANTS to talk to me about my kid, just not with her in the room. You may want to consider seeing a different doctor in the office that may have more of an ear for parents.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045685748766431789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-57031783473289574962010-07-21T15:18:00.027-06:002010-07-21T15:18:00.027-06:00I am sorry you had a doctor throw you under the bu...I am sorry you had a doctor throw you under the bus. I have had a similar experience and it was one of the worst experiences imaginable. My face is flushed just thinking about it!<br /><br />Like you with Biniam, I have to remind myself daily that Nolan doesn't fit any mold other than the unique mold God made for him. ADHD and autism are not easy to deal with but keeping the right attitude toward my little boy makes all the difference in the world. It's amazing how perspective can turn a mountain into a molehill. Press on!Charla Liedahlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12796959628598271551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-29955506421482320552010-07-19T20:09:06.420-06:002010-07-19T20:09:06.420-06:00TheLaughingLark, thank you SO much for sharing! Y...TheLaughingLark, thank you SO much for sharing! Your words were so, so good to hear. I feel like adults don't really talk much about this. Thank you again so much for your perspective--it is encouraging!Brianna Heldthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224838737334231065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-11545779645166997742010-07-19T19:40:38.091-06:002010-07-19T19:40:38.091-06:00Loved this post, you've got a great grasp on w...Loved this post, you've got a great grasp on what ADHD is and what it's not. I was homeschooled all through high school and for the most part ADD wasn't an issue because of the flexibility and a mom fascinated with finding the best ways I learned. I actually wasn't diagnosed until 21 and I have inattentive type(non-hyperactive) so because I was smart and had flexibility it was never enough of an issue to others around me to figure it out. (and I figured it out before doctors and had an experience with one (not the regular one) that obviously didn't hardly believe in the condition. NOT fun I know!)<br /><br />In a lot of ways I just can't separate who I am and what I like about me from the irritating things I just can't do the way others expect them to be done, it's not just a problem it's a part of me too. I wish I'd known sooner and I love the way my meds just add a little extra balance, but I think a lot of why I don't have more issues with it is that my childhood taught me a lot of the coping mechanisms I needed automatically. Biniam is ahead of the game, you know what's going on and can give him the confidence that it isn't just a deficit, as well as help him do do some of the training his brain to do things that you nonADHD seem to be able to do without thinking.Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436756329646312418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-5692464290112285932010-07-19T15:47:35.572-06:002010-07-19T15:47:35.572-06:00Oh Mary thank you for the encouragement!!! This w...Oh Mary thank you for the encouragement!!! This was so great to hear. Truly.<br /><br />Part of me is really wanting to go to the conference! Are you going??? I'd like to, but of course it's expensive. SO I'm thinking about it.Brianna Heldthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224838737334231065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14252293.post-23283897713485517242010-07-19T15:26:07.344-06:002010-07-19T15:26:07.344-06:00HI Brianna,
My oldest bio son would almost certain...HI Brianna,<br />My oldest bio son would almost certain have been labeled ADHD if we'd put him in school. He was most challenging from ages 3-9 or so, and then gradually he got mature enough to be more self controlled. <br /><br />Now I don't have enough words to express the delight I find in this boy. He's 18, just graduated from high school-- is witty, kind,hard-working, responsible, and enjoyed by all. <br /><br />I'm convinced that boys, even more than girls, really take time to mature. Glad you are finding ways to enjoy him as he is-- I'm sure feeling happy with him will get even easier as he matures.<br />Hugs<br />Mary, mom to 10<br />PS-- Any chance you're going to the adoption conference in Austin in Oct?Owlhavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08914960326214046859noreply@blogger.com