Here is a lesser-known fact about me: I am an only child.
I am mother to five, almost seven (!), children, and I have nary a sibling.
People make lots of assumptions about you when you're an only child. I cannot tell you the number of times I was asked growing up, "Do your parents buy you everything you want?" (um, NO! Bummer!), or was told "Welllllll, you don't SEEM like an only child" (and what DOES an only child "seem" like? Gosh, people are rude.) I actually think people were skeptical of my character or something because I didn't have any brothers or sisters to teach me how to be a civilized, humane citicizen. Blech.
Funny thing is, times have changed, even from the eighties, which is when I was growing up. NOW, I think if you decided to stop after having only one child, you'd get fewer weirdo comments than the person having three or four children. Maybe not, I don't know, I guess I'll NEVER know since the we're-only-having-one-child ship has long since sailed away from here.
Oh and do NOT assume that my having so many children has anything to do with having grown up a sad, "lonely only". I was neither sad NOR lonely. I had a great childhood. I have a great relationship with my parents. No regrets.
So. On to more important business. The first time I ever shared a bedroom with someone was in college, in the dorm. I thought it was so awesome to have a roommate, and it really was. I shared a room the following year too, but my junior year went back to having my own room. Then I got married, and ever since then I have shared my room with a boy.
Anyway, my kids share rooms currently, all except Mary, because she of course is awakened the easiest, so she has her own room. Anna shares with Kaitlyn, and Yosef shares with Biniam (they however are SO the odd couple. Really. If they ever decide to remake that old show my sons will star in it for sure.) They all, for the most part, love sharing rooms. If one of the girls is sick and sleeps on the floor in our room, the other girl is SO SAD. "IIIIII'mmmmm LONElllyyyyyyyyyy", she'll declare. It's really the sweetest thing ever. I love that every.single.night. at my house is like a mini (or not so mini, good grief we have five kids) slumber party. Each of the kids feels so safe and cozy with a brother or sister
But as you know, we have two new girls joining our family in the next several months. Which means there will be some shuffling around of rooms in our five-bedrooms-for-nine-people home. (I quickly want to say that this house is MORE than big enough for our soon to be family of nine. Truly. We are so blessed to have so much, when we think about the rest of the world or about the impoverished in our own country. We want for nothing.)
I honestly am not sure WHAT we'll do. T. is roughly Mary's age, so it would make the most sense for them to share. M. is around Kaitlyn's age...but...Katilyn shares with Anna. I don't know if I really WANT to split up Kaitlyn and Anna. And give Anna her own room. It would make good sense for a lot of reasons (Kaitlyn is such a night-owl and Anna, while she was at Kaitlyn's age, is so not now. There would also be no more than two children per bedroom, which is nice too.) BUT, we'd lose our guestroom. AND, Anna would have her own room. No more sharing with sweet Katie Jane. That makes me so sad for some reason! These girls have shared a room ever since we moved to Denver. Prior to that, when Kaitlyn was a baby, Anna would beg, BEG, to share a room with her younger sister. So it has been such a special thing.
But we have an odd number of girls we're working with here and I'm honestly not certain of what we'll do. The other options are to:
--Stick Mary, T., and M. all in one room (the one that has a huge closet) just for now, and later divide them up. Anna and Kaitlyn would continue sharing and we'd keep our guestroom.
--Get bunkbeds and put Anna, Kaitlyn and M. all in one room, and have a room for "the babies" (Mary and T.) Guestroom remains as is.
--Move to a house with ten bedrooms.
Haha. Just kidding. Sort of.
I honestly do love the idea of kids sharing rooms. On the other hand our guestroom does sit empty most of the time. (Hint, hint California friends, come visit! :) ) But yeah, I don't know. Hoping after we meet our girls that inspiration will strike and we can get things in order before they actually come home!
And none of this matters THAT much anyway because M. and T. will both sleep in our room in the beginning anyhow. They are so cute and I cannot WAIT to have them here, sleeping soundly in their beds.
I'm just trying to plan ahead.
Because you do these sorts of things when you're waiting on a court date to bring your sixth and seventh children home!