Wednesday, December 08, 2010

What I wore (and cooked) Wednesday

First some pictures, then some business.




Sunday two weeks ago.  Church, errands.
sweater: thrift store
jeans: Target clearance
shoes: church clothing swap




Thursday.  School drop off/pickup, spent time with friends.
sweater: hand-me-down
white tank top: Walmart
jeans: Target clearance
boots: thrift store
scarf: thrift store
necklace: lisa leonard designs




Friday night.  Fancy company party with Kevin. 
sweater: Target clearance
dress: thrift store
shoes you can't see: Target four years ago
(The angle/lighting in this picture is horrible!  The dress did NOT make my hips look so wide.  I promise.  I hope.  I also wore jewelry that you can't see.)





Tuesday.  Community group. 
gray sweater dress: thrift store
red cardigan sweater: hand-me-down
shoes: church clothing swap
scarf: thrift store
necklace: Ugandan beads

As you can see, I forgot to take photos this week.  Well, I took a couple, but mostly I forgot.  I kind of like this weekly feature, but I mostly hate it, because it feels incredibly vain. 

I buy most things second-hand and I want to encourage people that you can look semi-decent shopping at thrift stores.  (AND it's a ton of fun.  Especially with your daughter or with a friend!)  I also like it because I think it makes me realize that I DON'T wear pjs every single day--it feels that way, but it's not actually the case apparently.  Go me?

But still it bothers me.  So I think I am going to blend it with "What I cooked Wednesday" where I also share the meals I made that week.  That should be properly humbling.  And take care of any lingering vanity.

Eek.

Cooking is not something that I love.  I like the IDEA of preparing healthy, yummy food for our family, and I do find it quite fulfilling, but I don't feel that confident about it.  And it's a lot of pressure because I have SEVEN mouths to feed around here.  And I'd rather sit and read.  :)  So, just know that you will be getting yet another terrifying window into my real life here each and every Wednesday. 

That being said, I'm excited because I just got SUCH a yummy recipe for salad dressing from a friend, and maybe this "What I wore/cooked Wednesday" really will help me be more creative and consistent in my meal planning.  OR you'll just get to witness the random stuff we eat, deduce that my blog is no longer worth reading, and run off screaming into the blogosphere-night.




This week though I'll simply tell you about a cookbook that I LOVE.  A friend of mine (!) actually wrote it, and it's excellent.  Lots of fun and tasty recipes, many of which regularly make it to our dinner table.  There are lots of great tips in there too for meal planning, budgeting etc.  You can buy it on Amazon.  It would make a great Christmas gift!

So I'll try getting my act together in the kitchen and let's meet back here next Wednesday.  But don't be surprised if there are multiple photos of me in my robe, and multiple nights of quesadillas.  Yes, I'm setting the bar low on purpose.  Because now anything beyond nuked cheese in a tortilla, prepared by me in my jammies, will seem utterly impressive! 

It's all part of my master plan.


Tuesday, December 07, 2010

When Christmas is a downer (or, why I love Advent)


The title of this blogpost totally seems like an oxymoron.  But stay with me.  :)

I am so incredibly blessed this holiday season.  Five sweet children, amazing husband, such wonderful friends and family, and we are really savoring the coming of Jesus this Advent.  We've started some traditions and the kids are eating it all up.  We're attempting to focus on the Lord.  We're also having a ton of fun.  And I have Peppermint Mocha creamer AND Egg Nog in my fridge.  Be still my Christmas-treat-loving heart.

Now that being said...I know several people experiencing pain and uncertainty right now.  Due to some big, scary, sad stuff.  So, while my own day-to-day life feels pretty charmed, I also have this sense of sadness that comes and goes when I think of them, and it somehow feels a little magnified during this Christmas season.  I tend to be an empathic person by nature (which most likely partly explains why I used to want to be a therapist) so I sometimes have a harder time just getting on with things, even if I'm not the particular one hurting.  It's a double-edged sword, I'm finding.

As a result, I've also been reflecting a little on the fact that the holidays are incredibly sad and difficult for many, many people.  I haven't thought about this much before, because apparently I was too busy celebrating with my Egg Nog.  Sad but true.  People are lonely or estranged or hungry or suffering from chronic illness.  And yet, this is the time of year when we're supposed to be, well, merry. 

How do we reconcile any of that?

Two nights ago I stumbled upon this article.  (And I really do mean stumbled.  As in, I have literally NO clue how I got to that website.  But I'm glad that I did!)  I thought it was so challenging and hope-filled all at once.  No easy answers, but good food for thought just the same.

There is a hope that we have, we who believe in Jesus, who are part of His church and who love Him.  A hope that transcends all of the you-know-what that we face in this life.  That hope is profound and while it can sometimes be hard to hold onto, it is there, and it is real.   

I've mentioned before that we host/lead a weekly community group for our church, and we are supposed to be doing a group service project soon.  (I say "supposed to be" because our group always seems to have a horrible time coming up with something to do, finding a time to do it, finding a kid-friendly thing to do etc.)  And in line with thinking about potentially-hurting people this Christmas, I'm loving the idea of visiting a nursing home, and actually making it a regular thing.  The sad reality is that many of these residents seldom, if ever, get visitors.  They rarely see children, or middle-aged adults for that matter.  It's easy to ignore and, truth be told, I'm terribly uncomfortable visiting with people I don't know.  At CHURCH, much less a convalescent home.  But something tells me that God doesn't care so much about my dumb excuses or insecurities, and that these folks should be worth it to me because they're worth it to Him.

Not to mention, how awesome for my kids to get to do this??!!  Putting love and faith into action.  Meeting people where they're at.  Making heart connections.  Learning from others with decades' more life experience.  (And to be honest, my kids would have a ball.  Really.  They are so precious in that they love to talk to pretty much anyone, whether they know them or not.  Their inhibitions are lower, which can actually be a good thing sometimes.  :)  I can guarantee for example that Biniam would be happily working the room in about five seconds flat, with that big grin of his.)

It only seems right that my ponderings about people hurting during the holidays should manifest themselves in action--you know, me actually doing something about it for once.  I can't cure a loved one's cancer or disease or depression (oh how I wish that I could), but I CAN seek God's face, and therefore redemption, in suffering.  I feel like it's all connected somehow.  So I'm calling the nursing home today.

And something tells me that's just what Advent really ought to be about, anyway. 

Expecting, anticipating, waiting for Jesus to enter and heal our broken world. 

I'm there.  What about you?


Monday, December 06, 2010

Blogging for Cliff



Can you stand the cuteness?!! 

How sweet is he?!!

I want you to meet Cliff.

He lives in an orphanage in Eastern Europe as he waits for a family.

Cliff was born with Down syndrome.

And this Christmas season, Jeannett over at Life Rearranged is rallying the troops, raising money for Cliff's adoption fund at Reece's Rainbow.

So this boy can find the home that he so desperately needs and deserves.

Jeannett is a dear friend of mine from California.  We used to go to the same church and live in the same town.  She has cute kids, a cute house, and she and Andy are seriously hilarious.  I have many a fond memory of being doubled over in laughter over something they said.  They also have insanely huge hearts.  Such good people.

Anyway, yours truly (me!) is guest blogging at Life Rearranged today.

For Cliff.

Such an honor!!!  Truly.

Won't you please go visit?  And chip in?

No need to read my humble ramblings if you don't want to.

But there IS a need to help this sweet baby boy find his family.

When the financial barriers to adoption are overcome, children.find.families.  They just do.

So head on over and make a contribution.  Every little bit helps.

Let's get Cliff HOME!


Friday, December 03, 2010

7 Quick Takes Friday {#15}




1.)  How on EARTH has it been a week since I last blogged?!!!  I don't know what happened, but apparently we've been a bit busy.  My week in review: Monday I got to have coffee with three sweet friends--two came over in the morning and stayed for lunch, and one came over in the afternoon, and stayed for dinner and cards.  SO fun!  Tuesday morning we were fingerprinted by the USCIS (something we have to do in order to obtain eventual visas for our girls), we did homeschool, and Tuesday evening we had our small group.  Wednesday Kevin was home sick with an apparent 24-hour stomach virus, so we just hung out around the house and homeschooled and read.  Yesterday, Thursday, the big kids went to school, I did a bunch of reading, and then went to a friend's house for awhile before it was time to pick up the kids.  Then last night we had to trek out to have something notarized (not adoption related, surprisingly.  :) )  Finally, this morning, the kids and I got up early (though not early enough since we were a little late), went to Mass at our neighborhood parish, came home and did homeschool, and are finally taking a little break.  Whew!  Tonight Kevin and I are attending the annual Christmas party his company throws each year...kid-free!  Crazy, I know.  It's a pretty formal affair so we get to dress up and enjoy wine and appetizers and a nice meal and dessert.  I'm looking forward to it.


2.)  Is Charlotte's Web not the sweetest story EVER?!  It's my second time through (as an adult) and I absolutely love it.  The kids do, too.  If you ever get the chance to get the book-on-CD version from the library, it's read by EB White himself and it's AWESOME.


3.)  My kids think it's super fun to make Christmas lists.  They spend pretty much all of December writing lists and figuring out what they want--it's a group effort.  So funny.  We don't really do tons of gifts...our kids get SO many things from their grandparents that we really haven't done much.  This year though I've been doing a little shopping and have picked up some things for them.  Anna and the boys are all shopped for I think, and I'm about done with Kaitlyn too.  You're going to laugh but everything I've bought has been from the thrift store, except for some cheap 2-for-$1 headbands for a certain three-year-old from Target.  But I've found some great stuff!!  On the one hand I really do NOT ever want my kids buying into the consumerism and idea that Christmas is all about getting stuff.  On the OTHER hand, in case you didn't know, we don't exactly buy toys and things for our kids on a regular basis (besides clothes or stuff they need.)  SO, I think it's nice for them to have a couple of times a year (Christmas and birthdays) when they receive something they've been wanting.  Plus, we really are doing a lot of Christmas things (nativity set, Advent calendar paired with opening and reading an already-owned or library Christmas book a day, baking, Advent wreath + daily readings) that have nothing to do with consumerism.  Advent is all about anticipation and I'm really hoping to capture that this year!


4.)  Last night when we had something notarized (I THINK it had to do with refinancing, but I don't really know, as that's Kevin's domain, and I choose to be ignorant and just sign on the dotted line), we did it at the little bank inside our grocery store.  We needed to pick up a few things as well, and let's just say I came home with some extras...Peppermint Mocha creamer, egg nog, egg nog ICE CREAM, and chocolate mint fudge topping.  HA!  Clearly I am attempting to get into the spirit here.  By consuming lots of delectable calories.  (Note that I didn't call them "empty" calories.  Because they bring me joy.  Nothing empty about that.  So come on over if you're in the area, because I'm happy to share!) 


5.)  The kids and I are going through a childrens' book about saints right now.  Have you done much reading about the saints?  SO fascinating!  Many of them I've heard of, mostly the biggies (St. Augustine, St. Joan of Arc, St. Patrick, St. Francis of Assissi, and of course people of the New Testament like Mary and Joseph and John the Baptist and Stephen)...but there are some really wild stories!  Crazy miracles and visions and such.  I do believe these things happen, but they feel so far removed from little ol' me that it seems so wild.  It is truly amazing, however, to see the passion and love for God in His people all throughout history, and to see how they courageously gave their lives away (some in martyrdom, some simply in the day-to-day) to live for Him.  (My kids LOVE this portion of our day, by the way.  Love, love, love it.  I'd thought we'd do two saints per day, but no, we usually end up reading about five or so--when I finally say we need to move on to something else.)


6.)  I also feel like maybe we're FINALLY finding our homeschooling groove.  In December.  Ha!  Not that we weren't doing and learning things before this point, but I do feel like we're maybe finding a good rhythm, and that I'm finally figuring out what we should be working on exactly.  It feels so good to feel like we're (finally) on the right track for us right now.


7.)  Last night for dinner we had, ahem, frozen pizza.  (We baked it, but it started frozen.)  I know, I know, first I talk about all the unhealthy sugary treats I bought, THEN I tell you we ate cheap frozen pizza.  Well, I couldn't exactly cook last night because we had to leave the house to see the notary, so that's what we did.  (Does it make it any better if I say that the night before that we had (brown) rice and beans?  Full of fiber and protein?)  One of the kinds of pizza we made last night was spinach mushroom (yum!), but one of the kids declared that it smelled like stinky feet (??!!)  SO, they kept calling it "stinky feet pizza."  And apparently they LIKE the taste of feet because they kept wanting more, and would let us know by saying, "Can I have some more stinky feet?"  They thought this was SO funny, and really, so did I.  Kids.  What will they say next?



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Friday, November 26, 2010

Festive festivities

I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!



Ours was oh so good.





And really, how could it not be, when you have these two cuties for kids?!!!




We spent the afternoon and evening with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and their sweet girls, and some friends and their sweet girls.  Six adults and nine kids...and lots and lots of food.  I have not been that full in a long, long time.





  Sweet cousins.  Anna, Aubrey, Ainsley and Kaitlyn.





All the cousins on the couch.  Looking in the general direction of the camera.  :)





Cousins MOstly looking in the general direction of the camera :)




All the older kids


So yes, a wonderful day that culminated in Kevin watching football, me reading Scott Hahn's The Lamb's Supper: The Mass as Heaven on Earth, and both of us falling asleep on the couch at 10 pm during Seinfeld.


And the seasonal fun only continues.


Because today was:





Donuts for with breakfast,







Hauling in all of the Christmas ornaments and decor,








Setting up our fake, pre-lit (LOVE!) Christmas tree,








Decorating the Christmas tree,





Hanging the stockings by the chimney with masking tape care,





Putting up the Nativity Set (Anna set up all the pieces!),





And watching A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving. (Sorry, no photos.  Just imagine four kids lounging around the living room, and me chasing Mary away from the Christmas ornaments.)


No Black Friday shopping for me, except that I just bought a really fun Christmas banner here!!!  SO, so cute.  My friend's mom makes them and they are WONDERFUL. 


Here is my Give Thanks one that I LOVE:



In fact, I love it so much (and think the message is so universally applicable) that not only has it resided in THREE different places in my house already, I am now going to search for a permanent spot where it can hang.  We should give thanks all year round, no?


Now for some other random Holiday thoughts:


--While I'm not sure what's for dinner tonight, I DO know that we have a bunch of leftover pie that we will be consuming for dessert. 

--I'm hoping to get my Advent candles tomorrow and be ready to go when the season starts on Sunday.

--And I have gathered up a big pile of all our Christmas books, which I think I will wrap individually so we can open one per day starting December 1st, and read it together as a family.


We're really enjoying getting into the Holiday spirit, if you couldn't tell.


Probably in part because it has been SUCH a blessing and joy to have a wonderful long weekend with Kevin.  I'm soaking up the time.  Just knowing he's around is so nice.


I hope you are finding small, simple things to enjoy this week, as well!



Thursday, November 25, 2010

Thanksgiving

I just wanted to drop in while I'm sipping my coffee and wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving!

My pumpkin pie is baked and my potatoes are mashed.  Hooray!

So far we've had a really fabulous day...

Being awakened to loud whispering outside our bedroom door of "Happy Thanksgiving Mom and Dad!"

Attending Mass (and eating donuts) with dear friends

And soon we'll be heading down to my sister-in-law and brother-in-law's home for an amazing feast with family and more friends!

I am thankful for so many things.  Cliche, but true.  The one that stands out for me right now though is that my amazing, brave, wonderful aunt is being released from the hospital today, after surgery to remove a brain tumor.  I so wish I could be there with my extended family this Thanksgiving Day, but we'll see them next month, and they are all together today, which is so good.

I'm also incredibly thankful for my children, and my husband, and my friends.

And for the two precious little girls in Ethiopia who will be joining our family.

Thankful too for God and for His grace in my life. 

The list goes on. 

And I meant to blog yesterday--but I was busy homeschooling and organizing closets and working on picking up the unfinished part of our basement.  So I'm thankful I got some stuff done!

It WAS supposed to be "What I Wore Wednesday."  Nothing exciting to share, as always, but I did remember to take awkward pictures of myself a couple of times.  So:

Wednesday.  Me in my comfies.  From the thrift store and Walmart clearance.  I would live in this stuff if I could.  I was home all day.  My favorite place to be!




Thursday.  School drop-off/pick-up, time with girlfriends.  All from the thrift store.  Posy pin from The Pleated Poppy.



This was Sunday, so we went to church.  Sweater: thrift store.  Dress: Nordstrom clearance rack 8 years ago.  Scarf: KMart four years ago.  Leggings: WalMart clearance.  Fake leather boots: Kohls.  Necklace: Lisa Leonard Designs.






Monday.  Went to my church moms group and then out to coffee that night with a sweet friend I hadn't seen in awhile.  White long-sleeved shirt: Abercrombie and Fitch 8 years ago.  Jeans: Target clearance.  Everything else: thrift store.






I hope you have a truly wonderful Thanksgiving, filled with lots of food and love.

Thank you so much for being a part of my life here in the blogosphere.  I love blogging, and I love the relationships that have grown out of it.  I am constantly challenged and inspired by the words of you all.  Happy Thanksgiving!!!! 


Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Curriculum course change

Homeschooling, I am finding, is really just a lot like parenting.  You pick and choose and figure out what works.  Everything is a bit of trial and error, no matter how much you plan.  Things sometimes go awry, and sometimes things go better than you'd hoped.

So even though the year is already partially over, we are making some changes to our days in the areas of Literature, History, and Religion.

Basically, I have been feeling overwhelmed, burdened by the nagging thought in the back of my mind that I need to be doing this or that, and it's been hard to stay on track.  We have, for example, been using Story of the World Volume I for our History curriculum.  And, I LOVE Story of the World.  Truly.  BUT, I feel like maybe we need something a little more scheduled...that incorporates some other things.  I'm finding that I just don't have the mental or emotional energy to come up with stuff on my own to supplement what we're doing.

Now I do own the Story of the World activity book, which has lots of hands-on suggestions.  But I never do them, because I despise hands-on activities.  I mean I like my kids to do them, but I don't enjoy them.  So I avoid them like the plague.  (Yes, I am that mom.  My kids have never taken a dance class, either.  So sue me.)  The activity book IS great for additional reading suggestions, supplemental encyclopedia work and comprehension questions (not to mention there are fun coloring pages and such, which I DO enjoy utilizing).  BUT, I feel like a bit of it is over the kids' heads...sigh.



SO, I began looking more into...Sonlight Curriculum for our History and Literature.  Which I'd previously ruled out for four main reasons.

1.)  The cost. 

2.)  The schedules.  I thought it would be incredibly stressful feeling like ev.er.y.thing. was scheduled out for me.  And what if I don't WANT to read one of the stories?  And do I NEED someone to tell me when to read Charlotte's Web?

3.)  The fact that really Sonlight boils down to scheduled reading of other peoples' books.  Which is great, but everyone calls them "Sonlight books", which bothers me...because other people wrote them.  I know, I'm weird.  I actually LOVE the idea of using actual literature for school, but it drives me nuts that Sonlight seems to get the credit for the good books.

4.)  There is somewhat of a missions emphasis reflected in some of the book choices.  I know, I know--first I tell you that I refuse to lead my kids in fun-for-them hands-on activities, and NOW I say I don't want my kids learning about missionaries?!  Well, the reality is that I find many missions materials to be racially insensitive and approaching salvation in a way not keeping with my own personal views.  There have been many amazing men and women of God who have served as missionaries, don't get me wrong, yet there is also a lot I disagree with when it comes to the overall movement. 

BUT.

--A dear friend happened to have an additional Sonlight Core 1 instructor's guide (!) sitting around, and she has generously loaned it to me for the year!  Wow!  Another dear friend had two of the books I'd need, and offered to ship them to me (all the way from Washington)!  Yay!  I'm finding that I can obtain the other books from the library, and from half.com, and I already own several of them.  SO, God has given us a way to do Sonlight this year on the cheap.

--I'm discovering that I'm WANTING and NEEDING more structure.  I think at this point I'd feel LESS overwhelmed if I had a daily schedule layed out for me of what to read.  And, if it's really just good books that we're reading, it wouldn't necessarily feel contrived.

--And I won't call them "Sonlight books", I will say I'm using Sonlight Curriculum.  I still feel a little silly needing someone to tell me what day to read this or that, but I also kind of love it.  Okay, I MOSTLY love it.

--Don't tell, but I've decided to throw out most of the missions books altogether.  Unfortunately however, NOT before I'd ordered one of them from half.com...and was appalled by the language and the way things were portrayed.  Referring to a particular culture as "stubborn and ignorant", insinuating that Africa was a dark and spiritually lacking place.  Ugh.  (Crazily enough, this book was written in 1993!  Sheesh!) 



SO, we're going to go through this book instead, The Children's Book of Saints.  Because I LOVE the idea of my kids learning about various heroes of the faith.  I want them to know about believers who dedicated their lives to the poor and the helpless, motivated by their love for Jesus and their love for man.  I'm really excited about it. 

Religious Instruction.  We will continue plugging along in the Jesus Storybook Bible.  Love it.  We have also begun attending Mass at our neighborhood parish with some friends on Friday mornings.  It's super kid-directed, because the students from the parish school are involved in the service.  My kids really enjoyed it last week, and so did I.  What better way to start the day than going to worship the Lord?

Math.  Anna will continue in her Singapore Math book, and I'm working with the boys on Saxon Math (lots of manipulatives, so super simple.) 

Reading.  Yosef and Biniam are still learning to blend words together, and to be honest, we're taking it slow.  While I enjoyed the book The Well-Trained Mind, I think their whole "reading is easy so get kids reading early" philosophy is short-sighted in that it doesn't take into account that kids develop at varying rates.  It doesn't work for all kids.  Even Anna, my crazy early taught-herself-to-read reader, was not interested in systematic phonics instruction and would not have benefitted from this either.  So I'm chucking that idea out the window and going more with the Better Late Than Early thing.  Before I lose (the rest of) my mind.

Handwriting.  This is something I'd really like to start up sometime soon.  Again, I think something developmentally sort of "clicks" with kids at some point.  Yosef, while often writing a letter or two backwards (Anna does it too), is somewhat strong in this area.  Biniam struggles a bit.  It's the whole fine motor skills thing, and I'm not in a hurry.

If you couldn't tell, I love me some laid-back unschooling with a bit of structure too.   Ultimately I'm wanting to raise Jesus-loving children who know how to learn and who are passionate about living a life of service for God.  I want my kids to appreciate good books and good relationships.  I want to build up their self-confidence and help them to explore their interests. 

Those are big goals, and I hardly feel up to the task, but the one thing on our side is that God designed families, in part, to fulfill these very things. 

How blessed are we??!!


Monday, November 22, 2010

An unexpected journey

I know I've mentioned on here before about my ongoing interest in the Catholic faith.  How I began researching the Church in earnest a couple of years ago.  And how it all began with questions about contraception and sexuality.

Well, that's not entirely true.  It involved other things too, questions I had about church and faith and the Eucharist and Martin Luther and what Jesus' intention was in establishing His church on Earth.  Lots of light reading, obviously.  :)  But my interest was definitely piqued by historical Church teaching on family and marriage.  Which, I must tell you, I have fallen in love with.  Both with my heart and with my (limited) intellect.  (Kevin fell first, though, so I must give credit where credit is due.)

And I'm compelled.  Still reading, still grappling, still attempting to make sense of it all.  I am not really ready to share my conclusions here, because I'm still processing a lot of things and it just would not make for very enjoyable reading.  :) 

BUT, my dear friend Jennifer has been on a similar-but-accelerated journey.  And wrote such a beautiful blogpost that I wanted to share it with you today.  It's so good in fact that I might just pretend I wrote it.

Please be advised that I have no desire to start any sort of debate over Catholicism and Protestantism here at Just Showing Up.  While I've never had an issue with Catholicism, I remember the days when I was a little skeptical of the Roman Catholic Church, and while there are things I still have questions about (and understand some of the objections), I will be honest and say that most of my skepticisim was unfounded and based on things I THOUGHT I knew...but if I had simply looked into the matter, would have discovered that I misunderstood.  Things like Martin Luther's 95 Theses, for example.  I finally read them a couple of years ago.  For myself.  And the basic gist was different from what I'd assumed.  His life was very different from what I'd assumed, for that matter.

And much of the liturgy my own (Reformed Protestant) church uses is the very same liturgy found in the Mass.  Which incidentally was first recorded in 215 AD but supposedly had been in use much earlier than that.  We recite it every week before receiving the sacrament of Communion.

Funny thing is, I have encountered many, many Protestant believers who have either joined the Catholic Church, have seriously considered joining (but chose not to for various reasons), or who are on the cusp.  More people than I would have expected.  I feel like Kevin and I have been "in the closet" for the past few years with our reading of church history and Catholic authors.  Now I'm finding we're not alone.  The closet is more crowded than we thought.

Anyway, I know you'll really enjoy Jennifer's post.  It's honest and insightful and just really beautiful.  It resonates with me.

AND, just for fun, if you want to read an excellent, thoughtful, humorous blog by a wonderful Catholic woman (also named Jennifer), do check out Conversion Diary if you haven't already.  One of my favorite blogs for sure! 


Friday, November 19, 2010

7 Quick Takes Friday {#14}




1.)  I've done the whole "What I Wore Wednesday" thing two weeks in a row now, but I'm thinking I should really be doing "What I Made for Dinner Wednesday" instead.  Talk about needing accountability!  I am so inept when it comes to meal planning.  You'd THINK this would be something I'd have figured out by now, but it's not.  Remember, I said I'm not creative.  And that's part of my problem.  I get tired of making the same old stuff , or I just plain can't come up with anything.  BUT we need to eat.  All seven of us.  So I really need to make some improvements in this area.


2.)  Lately, speaking of dinner, I've been making roasted vegetables as a side-dish.  I just toss them with extra virgin olive oil and fresh minced garlic, then bake or roast them...YUM.  I could live on that.  Love it.  So do my kids and husband though, so I have to share, and pretend that I LIKE sharing because I want my kids eating veggies.  But deep down, I'm really wishing that all of the asparagus and cauliflower were mine.


3.)  How is Thanskgiving next week already?  My goodness!  November has BLOWN by.  We've been busy and I've been sick so I guess that's what happens, but still, it's nuts.  We're having dinner at my sister-in-law and brother-in-law's house, and I'm bringing mashed potatoes and pumpkin pie.  Oh how I love a Thanksgiving feast!  (And aside from the delightful company, the side dishes are what I'm there for.  The turkey gets all the attention, and I do like turkey, but I'm all about the stuffing and the potatoes and the yams and the rolls.  And lots of gravy.)


4.)  I really, REALLY need to get to Costco.  We are seriously out of our staples--bread, peanut butter, brown rice, beans, garlic, soap, the list goes on.  Anna hasn't been feeling well (she even missed school yesterday, bummer!) though so I'm not sure about how well we'd all wether the outing.  We probably don't have a choice though, ha!


5.)  Starbucks.  2-5 pm.  Yesterday through Sunday.  Holiday drinks.  Buy one, get one free.  Enough said.


6.)  Last night Kevin misplaced his keys after he got home from work.  We had to go to a meeting after dinner so we just used mine instead, but he was perplexed and stressed out about it the entire time we were out.  I told him he needs to be more like me and lose things on a regular basis, so he can learn to just roll with it and not care so much.  Heehee.  (He did find them when he got home, on our bookshelves.)


7.)  My house is a disaster (for me.  Objectively speaking it is not really that bad).  I feel like we are having a hard time maintaining a routine lately.  Also, homeschooling has really taken a hit in recent weeks, partly because I've been sick, and partly because I'm just not thrilled with what we've been doing.  So I'm changing it up.  I'd envisioned what our year would look like, but it's looking a bit different, and I need to be okay with that.  I'll share about our change in curriculum sometime soon.

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Thursday, November 18, 2010

How do you do it?


I get asked this question a lot.

People really are genuinely curious when they see our family at the store, or when I mention that we have five children and are in the process of adding two more. 

They want to know how we manage.

How we survive.

Being the socially awkward introvert that I am, I generally try to sidestep the questions and get out of there as quickly as possible.  :)  I know some of you genuinely love meeting new people and making new friends at Costco or Target, but that just does not come naturally to me.  And NOT because I'm a mean or closed-off person.  It's just uncomfortable.

But I'm trying.

I'm trying to be a bit more open and honest about motherhood when people talk to me about it.  Recently our small group was discussing ways we can be better at living in community with one another.  Something that came up was spurring one another on to love and good deeds.  In thinking about encouraging others, I thought about how all too often, motherhood is looked at as something to endure or as a drudgery.  I remembered a conversation at my moms' group where a friend spoke about how sad it is that so many times, moms just complain, complain, complain about their role as a mother.

I have found this to be true as well.  I too have noticed that it has become the hip, cool thing to not be TOO into this whole motherhood gig.  To lament our lack of adult conversation during the day, to decry the fact that our brains have turned to mush, to live for date nights and "uninterrupted time" with our spouse.

Now don't get me wrong.  Being a mom is hard.  It just is.  24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you're the mom.  There's no getting around it.

And it hardly matters how many children you have.  Whether it's two or five, you're still responsible for a smattering of small, needy people who embarrass you on a regular basis.

So I've decided I want to do a better job of encouraging other moms.  When people take notice of  us or engage me in conversation, I want to talk about what a joy it is to mother my little ones.  What an honor it is to be a mommy.  How we rejoice at the addition of each new child and how we wouldn't trade this life for anything in the world.  (In the name of being balanced, I'm also happy to share about various things my kids have done to make me mad.  But those things pale in comparison.)

I must tell you that sometimes, when people ask me how I do it, the conversation evolves into something where they tell me THEY could never do this, THEY could never raise five children, and I must have the right personality for it.

Ha!

That's funny.  Completely and utterly LAUGHABLE. 

I do NOT, I repeat, do NOT, have the type of personality that just naturally goes with having a gaggle of kids.  Really.  Because my personality could be described, in part, as follows:

extremely introverted
enjoy being by myself
disorganized
low energy

Granted I'm laid back and optimistic and flexible too, and those come in mighty handy, but I'm also super uptight about certain things.  And horribly impatient.

All of this to say that I do what I do because God gives me the grace to do it.  He equips.  I don't think some couples are automatically "lots of kids" couples and some are "only a few kids" couples.  I really don't.  I think many of us "moms to many" would say that we are so not cut out for this, but that God shows up and gives us the strength for the task.  If I can do it, TRUST ME, you could do it.

In the interest of full disclosure I must say that my views are a direct result of what we believe about families, marriage, and children--as taught by the Catholic Church.  This is really a whole other blogpost, but yes, we do follow the Church's teachings on this stuff.  Even though we are not currently Catholic.  Yes, another can of worms blogpost indeed.

But anyway.

I really do love my life, and all of the blessings God has given me.  I love having a large-ish family, I love all the chattering and hugs and giggling that happen around here every.single.day.  I want people to know that I do it the same way THEY do: day by day, or more like moment by moment.  And, really, I've come to grips with the fact that we are a walking, talking, sometimes crying circus act anytime we go somewhere...we're GOING to get asked questions...so why not capitalize on that?  Why not talk about what a blessing it is to be generally open to life, to welcome new children when they come, to adopt little ones needing a home?  Why not mention that some things are EASIER--yes, easier--when there are several children in the family? 

Sure I have specific things I do to make life somewhat manageable around here.  Maybe I'll share some another time.  (You know, right after I tell you all about how we came to be influenced by Theology of the Body and Pope John Paul II.)  But mostly, when people ask us "how do you do it?", I think they're really asking the general question "how are you surviving with that many children?"  And some days I survive better than others.  Some days I just want to give up.  But it's good.  Really, really good.

Because when something is part of God's plan, when something is designed to draw you closer to Jesus and closer together as a family...well...God makes a way.  And while it's certainly not always easy, it's sure to be blessed. 

So that I guess is how we do it. 

And I am learning how to share that with the people I meet at Target.  :)



Wednesday, November 17, 2010

What I wore Wednesday and lack of creativity

Well friends here we are again.  It's Wednesday, and I'm posting cheesy photos of what I wore.  It's all pretty hilarious because I apparently loved gray and black this week.  That and I also apparently wore a cardigan everyday.  Ha!  If you don't know already, I am not a particularly creative person.  Not artistic in the least.  And DON'T try to say that everyone is creative in their own way.  I'm not.  So, if I like something, I wear it to death.  And I'm not great at home decorating because I just don't have that creative mind for it.  There's your random Brianna-factoid for the day.  :)  (And no, I'm not fishing for compliments either.  I really am just not a think-outside-the-box-er.)

You'll notice that I included my head and even my face this time.
Also, please take note of the horribly-lighted photo of me in my comfy robe (which is not actually as hideous in normal lighting.  I don't know what happened there.)  I only posted one photo, but you can bet I wore that, AND my leopard-print slippers, multiple days.  SOooo cozy. 

And I am FINALLY almost over this ridiculous cold.  I know I keep talking about it, but this was probably the worst cold I've had in years!  I HAVE to get to Costco soon, because we are dangerously low on various groceries.  Including soap.  Awesome.





Thursday.
School drop-off, lunch date with Kevin and our two youngest girlies, some time with girlfriends in the afternoon, school pick-up.


cardigan sweater: Target clearance
hand-stamped necklace: lisa leonard designs
everything else: thrift store







Friday (and Wednesday too...): at home resting.
robe: thrift store
comfy black pants: Old Navy five years ago
slippers: Target three years ago






Saturday: had our small group over for dinner.

cardigan sweater: Target clearance
yellow shirt: Target clearance (it's actually a maternity shirt, but it was only $4, so I bought it anyway, ha!)
jeans: Target clearance
ballet flats: Target three years ago






Sunday.  Church, thrifting with Anna.

scarf: thrift store
dress: Gap three years ago
tights: Express nine years ago
knee socks: Target
cardigan sweater: Gottschalks clearance five years ago (does anyone else remember Gottschalks???)
boots: Kohls four years ago











Monday.
Dinner out with girlfriends.
Everything from thrift store.





Tuesday. 
Homeschool meeting.
cardigan sweater: Target clearance.
black camisole: Target three years ago
everything else: thrift store



Again, bad lighting.  I'm pale, but not THIS pale!




 

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